Justice under the law and fairness are concepts often intertwined in discussions about morality and governance, yet they are distinct in meaning. Both are foundational to the functioning of a just society, but each brings different considerations to the table.

Is a “custody battle” ever in the best interest of a child? Is the process of litigating these issues so inherently damaging that, by definition, it is not in the child’s best interest?

Divorce marks the end of your marriage, but if you have children together, it's actually the beginning of a new kind of partnership. Collaborative parenting isn't just a nice idea - it's one of the most important gifts you can give your children during this difficult transition.

Divorce paperwork can feel like it's written in a foreign language. Those legal terms that sound intimidating? They're actually describing pretty straightforward concepts. Let's break down the most important ones so you can understand what's really happening in your case.

A client was in my office the other day, trying to explain to her husband why she was leaving him. “You just don’t get it,” she said. “It’s not the money or the big house I wanted—it was you. I wanted someone to listen to me, someone who cared how much it hurt when my mother died, someone who didn’t think money was the answer to all of life’s problems. But you were always at the office. Or on a plane somewhere.”

Boiled down to the essentials, productive confrontation involves: (1) treating the other with respect; (2) having the courage to speak your truth—firmly, but kindly; and (3) being patient, because timing is everything. Practiced this way, confrontation has the power to turn lead into gold, just as the ancient alchemists promised.